I can't tell if I'm working in a toxic environment. Advice?

First of all, I'd really recommend quitting your current job.
But of course, find a good replacement first with good conditions and paychecks.
Try to save up as much as you can for few months and rent a small apartment.
And start growing from there.

I'm saving up rn to do so aswell.

 

Yea.. sounds harsh so it might not sound as easy..
But you can find that really awesome job.

I'm doing barista for living and luckily my boss is really really friendly and he gives us tons of bonuses, although the job might be worth the extra dollars but yeah

There's always that one job that will keep you happy, just find it.

 

I know it's very frustrating when things don't go the way you want. My most important advice is to make sure that you put yourself in a situation where you have full control of your life.

In a career POV, you've been working at the animal hospital for over 2 years, at the age of 25 and being the lowest ranked there. I really hope that you've gotten a pay raise or some sort of thing. At that age, you should really aim on trying to get high skilled job, or a manager/supervisor position by the age of 30 so that you could get some of healthy income for the longterm. (It's not too late)

To fix your workplace situation, I don't know how your co-workers are, but this can be solved as easy as talking to them and letting them know that you didn't appreciate the way they spoke to you. It is possible that they were not aware of their rudeness. If you plan on doing this, just sure to send the message in a positive and light tone.

Moving out can be an option, I completely understand that yes it will be very hard for both you and your family both financially and emotionally. But this will 100% give you a lot more room for freedom. However if you do plan on moving out, make sure you have a solid plan.

 

Kinda feeling neglected again

 

Your situation sounds miserable to me. I'm sorry you have to work in that environment each day.

I know toooons of people who are still living with their parents at age 25. I lived with mine until 25; then I decided to go to school. These are different times. In NY especially, the rent is ridiculous and getting your own place just isn't worth the cost. Most complaints made about kids being "spoiled" or not "working hard enough" come from people who are much older and already have a secure job.

My advice is to try to break out of this environment. Try looking and applying for other jobs? If they require more degrees, maybe look into a Master's Program? Maybe think about moving to a different state (where rent isn't ridiculous)? I know this is much easier said than done, but the worst thing that could happen would be to lose motivation and goals for your future.

Hope this helps. I'm rooting for you!

 

fast track an nursing degree if you have the foundational sciences.
not sure how youre father came to the conclusion physiologists needs 9 years of preparing? maybe hes referring to PhDs. but even then sciences arent worth it, because research is shite.
the problem at youre work, should not be that unusual. considering job market is over-saturated, hence why youre replaceable. and because youre replaceable, you can be treated like shit. because you need the job; and people like to exert power over others, its a human thing
im 23-24. just got my first job, and im going into a 6th year of undergrad...
but im in Canada, so yeah... and tuition just became free for poor people, so i got that going for me

 

Personally if i was in your position,

- if i knew i was working my ass off and still getting shit on by co-workers, call their bluff you can find a job elsewhere nobody needs that shit(keep in mind you need to differentiate whether they are talking shit cuz you're doing a shit job, or their just assholes in general)
- living at home and saving money is probably the smartest idea, invest in a house and find renters or something.
- go outside, playing maple wont help.

 

First, I'd like to say I'm really sorry that you're going through all of this. If I could give you one advice, it's this... NEVER settle for a job that makes you miserable and unhappy no matter how good the pay is. At the end of the day our happiness is what matters. Forcing yourself to wake up and go to a job that you hate every single day is very exhausting and you will eventually burn out. When it comes to your parents, not everyone is perfect. People these days are very negative so don't think too much about it. It's time to take matters into your own hands because no one else will help you if you don't help yourself. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about what people think! You live with your parents?! So what?! Some people would kill to bring their parents back to life just to see them for one more day so I don't see that as a problem. Your colleagues are obviously bad people so don't even listen to them. As cliche as it may sound, it's never too late. Study what you want and get the job of your dream. Start looking after yourself and after your happiness. Imagine that tomorrow was your last day on earth.. would you be satisfied with the way you have been living your life so far?

I wish you all the best and I really hope you end up finding a much better job with nicer people have a nice day

 

yes you are working in a toxic environment. find a new job with more hours and put in your 2 weeks

 

First off, I'd follow Niv's advice of getting another job while before quitting your old one.

1. Victorian Gardens in CP is hiring for the summer(maybe longer) if you're interested in trying to apply. You can come in personally and ask for the hiring paperwork to help boost your chances.
2. Otherwise, if your resume is lacking try to find volunteer work(museums, libraries, etc) to fill it up, or try getting hired at a tutoring place like KuMon, or a food service industry like Chipotle (there's no shame at working at one! Plus free food).
3. When applying try not to be picky. You need a job if you're only working 12 hrs a week. Feel free to walk about busy areas of the city during your free-time looking for "We're hiring!" signs. New places opening up will also be hiring.

Second, being 25 and living at your parent's house still in NYC is normal, you already know that rent here is ridiculously high. There's no need to be ashamed. My older sister lived with us til she was 32.

Third, I think your parents are just using realism. It sucks but it helps to see the big picture before rushing off.
You can also do a "trade job". Not completely sure how it works so you'll need to research it. But I think companies sometimes take people as apprentices and pay for their education if they work for them later on.

 

You could always see a therapist. They can help you make positive changes in your life and point you in the right direction.

 

This. A therapist can give professional advice

 

Yes your job sounds crappy and I wouldn't stick around. Job hop until you find the right one with the right peoople, no matter how long it takes.
Don't blame yourself for living with your parents in NYC. That's pretty hard not to do.

I recommend you try a staffing agency. Or three. That way, if you don't like a job, you can just ask for another and another until yyou find the right one.

 

If you really want to move out, you can check a website like craigslist. There's usually people with a bit of extra space who rent out a room, and you'll probably be sharing a bathroom and kitchen and whatever else. But it's not with your parents. Usually I find this option affordable, but the problem may be you are rolling the dice and don't know what kind of people you will end up with, even if you meet them for a while, you could always see another side of them that changes your perspective.

But on the other hand, if you don't mind or even like living with your parents, you may as well stay with them. Fuck those people calling you spoiled. You're absolutely correct when you say 90% of your friends are also staying with their parents as well. It's not "this generation" that is the problem, it's the messed up economy the older generation created, which is the problem.