Share Tips for Getting over Heartbreak

Chin up! The feeling will leave soon enough, just act civil and respectful but make no efforts to meet up. As you said before bury yourself in hobbies and meet new people. It will be fine I promise!

 

I didn't, you just have to learn how to live with it.

 

When I was younger i'd turn any left feelings i had for the person into hate and just stop talking to them. If it wasn't meant to be it's not meant to be. If it is you'll find out later. Nowadays i'm just numb when it comes to relationships and i love it. My gf could dump me today and i wouldn't care.

 

You're messed up my friend. I feel bad for your girlfriend.

 

She's the same way i am don't worry.

 

Not quite over it yet but I guess not supressing my emotions helped me a bit and it's healthy too afaik
If you feel like tearing up, just do it, you'll feel much better the day after

Other then that the already mentioned distraction and time spent with friends etc. is always good

 

If you broke up for a reason like it just wasn't working out or something and you were unhappy, then you can keep reminding yourself that it's better this way. The person wasn't fit for you so you can continue your path to look for someone that is. If you keep thinking like that then eventually you'll realise that you're better off without them. If you keep thinking of the person you were with before then you'll never get back on that path. That's how I did it I guess. I realised how unhappy I was and how much more happy I am now we're apart and I pretty much got over that person instantly.

 

I had one that really touched my heart, and on the very first date, only like 30 minutes later she broke up with me, probably in the most disgusting way possible at the time. I know however that it was me doing or saying something wrong that made her leave me, so I have learned an important lesson from my mistake with her, and this gives me better knowledge of how to treat girls in general. Yes, obviously, I felt terrible and that I really want her to be with me again, but there was nothing I could do. So I am sort of moving on. You can never 100% move on from someone who has truly touched you heart, but what can be done is to simply focus on other things. Meet new girls and people, hang out with good friends, ask them for advice/motivation on the matter, etc. I did just that and arleady felt better. The point of all this is, you need to make yourself feel as if this wasnt that big or serious at all, and that it doesnt affect you that much anymore. Thats how you minimize the effect - you make it make you feel less affected by it, by focusing on other things and telling yourself that you have to move on. Its not worth going crazy over ONE SINGLE person. There are a million other girls out there just waiting for me, and that fact alone would make me happy.

 

Stop getting attached to people.
Just kidding.
Not really.

It goes away with time. Until that time, just party it up.

 

I can't really say what is the best remedy for me. I've only been in one relationship and it lasted two and a half years. I remember our close friends thinking we would always be together, and a part of me believed it too because of how in-sync we were. However, we did not see eye-to-eye in our future. I know that might sound a little weird to already plan for the future but the way I see it is you'll either marry this person or be in a relationship with them until death or you'll eventually break up with them (maybe this is why I don't do relationships very well, haha). So, we knew that we couldn't change the other person's mind so we decided it was best to separate. It's sometimes weird because we attend the same uni even though I rarely see him (considering over 30,000 people attend) so I can't completely cross him out of my life. I don't hate him, but I also don't love him.

^ Wow that was random nonsense. To answer the central topic of this post, I found rejoice through reading books and just listening to music. I really just listen to any non-vocal music and I enjoy reading as long as I'm the one who decides what it is.

I'm not too concerned with finding 'the one.' I think it's something society stresses and although I'm not trying to act like a contrarian, I just have a lot that I want to do and realize I probably won't be in one spot for a lengthy period of time to maintain a steady relationship. But hey, who knows? Maybe there's one guy out there who can handle my itinerant, capricious predispositions.

Just take life one day at a time. Love yourself before you try to get someone else to love you (corny af but I believe it's essential). The ocean waters will always move, the wind will continue to blow, and everything will take its course. Relationships are not as important as they may seem (but we all have different ideas in terms of what we find important, so I will not argue against it), focus on your future goals and continue to cultivate your own self.

And just read books, it's an amazing use for when you're feeling stressed/depressed/etc.