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Depression.

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Shrek, Oct 13, 2015.

  1. Shrek
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    Shrek Capt. Latanica

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    I honestly feel empty inside.
    I didn't realize until now, but this game is a mere distraction from my depression.
    I know people have worse problems, but mine is that I feel lonely.
    I don't feel like this will go away until I find a significant other, and I hate it.
    I don't know why I feel this way.

    I honestly just want to feel loved, but it has to be from someone other than my friends or family.

    I can't stand this feeling, and unless I am distracted, it doesn't go away..

    My countless attempts at finding someone only shows my desperation, as I fear rejection and being ignored..

    I don't know what to do, and I don't feel like I can truly be happy unless I find someone.

    So, I'm asking this in all seriousness.
    What should I do?

    Who should I turn to?

    I need help..
     
  2. plnko
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    Ayyyyye, if you need anyone to talk to, you can always talk to me. I've been up and down my own depressions with military and a lot of negativity. "The worse thing you can do to a changing person is remind them of their past"
     
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    Play legends.

    Just kidding, uhm it's a natural thing to feel but the thing is, for me I strive for perfection in my life and I know pretty well that I have to quit any form of distractions to make the best out of my time... Gaming is one of them.
    The first thing to do would be to acknowledge and understand where this is all coming from, simply put, your blueprint in life says that for you to be happy you need a relationship.
    All you have to do is rationalize how you can be happy or even happier without a relationship , for me I've done that.
    The forever alone path is rewarding only if you think so and uhm, the other solution would be to get a relationship and find out that it's not perfect, you can't map it all out and you're bound to have hard times, if you have goals and dreams, a relationship would be a mere distraction, having someone on your mind all the time is bothersome.

    Good luck with whatever you pick
    #ForeverSinglePride
     
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  4. Jackii Kon
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    :(
    As someone who's been there let me share some of my experience.

    First off I wanna tell you the same shit you'll hear everywhere else. There's plenty fish in the sea, eventually you'll end up with someone but it won't happen if you actively look for it.
    Change up your routine. Start with small things like trying a different haircut or going to different places because those things will influence your mood and also your outlook on life.

    Now I'm gonna tell you some facts. Finding someone else to make you feel better about yourself is the worst thing you can do as you'll only end up depending on your significant other completely. You need to find a way to be happy by yourself and to appreciate yourself for who you are.
    This shit really is up to you and no one else.
    I'm sure you have people to support you but you can't ask someone else to be your happiness.
    For me changing my looks helped, going out more and picking up another hobby or two..and trust me you'll find someone along the way. That's just life for ya.
    Lots of small steps turn into something great eventually.
    Hang in there bud and hmu if you wanna talk some more.
     
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  5. danrick
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    learn to love yourself, If you love yourself in a non arrogant way, you will attract more love in your life from others. Depression is a downwards spiral, the lower you get the more bad events seem to happen and the more pain you attract in your life. Begin by loving yourself, allowing yourself to just be, let these moments of sadness come and go, Build up a relationship with yourself, You are the only one you will have always this lifetime , Learn to get on ^_^ <3
     
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  6. Michii
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  7. Spooky
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    I'm on the same boat
    You just gotta find a healthier hobby/outlet
     
  8. Kyle
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    this tbh. depression will only get worse if you keep thinking about others. you have to work on yourself and only yourself. plan things out, use a calender for it. find a new activity to do like hiking or swimming or hunting or something. if possible, find a job to keep yourself busy. get counseling. going into a relationship while depressed is probably the worst thing you can do to yourself emotionally. realistically it never works out.
     
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  9. danrick
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    I agree, First build a good relationship with yourself, create your own happiness that you can then choose to share with someone who shares their happiness with you. Happiness ultimately comes from within not external factors such as material things or other people. Of course friends and family and relationships are all very nice, but without the core of self love they are meaningless.
     

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