The reason why our ToS needs to change

When you're a banned endgame player, anyone below endgame is gonna say "dude you're just a dick, i never got banned lmao"

When you're a non-banned player below endgame, endgamers are gonna say "dude you've just never been in our stressful shoes"

If either side could just stop using these things as arguments, we might actually be able to work towards a fitting ToS. (Granted I'm more than likely of the first logical fallacy, I just realised it, leave me alone)

 

WHEN WILL IT STOP

 

I'd rather people use actual examples of what the ToS can/can't do instead of making up these theoretical holier-than-thou strawman arguments.

I can't speak for others, but I know that I've been in really frustrating experiences in-game, such as when another player intentionally killed me by coming into a map I had @mapowner and rushing a mini boss into one of my characters, or when I ran APQ and had to deal with another player going full AFK while they did other stuff. These are tilting things to deal with that I did not initiate on my own, and I did not retaliate or respond with any toxicity towards them, verbal or otherwise. But what I do want is the ability to vent my frustration to other players and warn them of my bad experiences with these players, something that I believe I should absolutely be allowed to do in private discords. This is something that's important to me, personally, and something I want to make sure isn't a punishable action under the ToS.

I'm not trying to be toxic, but when other people act disrespectful towards me, I want to be able to talk about it.

 

I want to see at least one more of those "private discord talks leaked" bans, or do we only have one specific example and everything is based on that?

Because

What you explain here is not harrassment and noone would be able to take action according to ToS, unless you and your friends go out of your way to harrass them.

 

Under the previous ToS wording, before the most recent set of changes, it would have qualified for harassment, which is why there was pushback and why a lot of players are much happier with the most recent set of ToS updates. Previously, any repeated statements about another player, regardless of veracity, that would cause them to have a negative reputation, would have been considered harassment.

 

That's their repupation in the whole ML community though, no? I honestly don't think a group of people talking shit about someone would be considered punishable, unless, again, you go out of your way and actively talk bad about someone in public domains.

 

That's a pretty vague line to draw. Say I'm friends with people in all 3 major endgame PB guilds, and I tell this story about being griefed to my friends in all 3. Now all 3 guilds blacklist said player from their PB runs. This player now has a negative reputation amongs some maybe 50-100 people at most; does that mean they have a negative reputation in the whole ML community? How many people before it's considered their reputation in the community is impacted?

 

I agree that this is an important situation to consider as well, although one I was hesitant to bring up because it's both a touchy subject, not entirely under the domain of 3.3.3, and the onus of reporting is not necessarily on you or I.

Regardless, it's a good point that speaking on situations like these were restricted under the previous iteration of the ToS, and not, as some players put it, just endgame players wanting to be toxic.

 

We're circling again, if you're griefed you can take action against that player via the official channels. Everyone taking action against a griefer wouldn't be an offense as well, everyone is accountable for their actions. That's not the point.

I also still would like to have an answer for this, because I now fel like this whole conversation is being discussed over one guy's ban and if that's the case i won't even want to touch this thread again.

 

I mean, it kinda is the point. Everyone taking action against the griefer under the previous iteration of the ToS was considered harassment, that's why I and some others pushed back, and then the ToS got updated a week ago, and most of us are happy. You're complaining we're circling again because many (not all) of the grievances on this thread have been addressed by staff already, and yet some people are still posting in this thread strawmanning that endgame players just want to be toxic. If you don't want to circle again, then stop making allegations that the only reason there was pushback was because people want to be toxic.

 

One of the biggest issues with this though is that there was very real retaliation to people who tried to take action about said player, and not from Staff. People were kicked from guilds and publicly lambasted over this and friendships were ended because for some reason people like to defend those who are guilty of sexual harassment. This is a community problem moreso than a ToS problem, I think.

 

Maybe you shouldn't read intentions, my question above was something I asked just to understand what's being discussed and for the sake of clarity of the discussion. I have no idea if people are toxic at the endgame or not, however I still might have ideas that I could bring to the table.

Mind you, I wasn't the one who initiated the conversation about 3.3.3 as well, here you said:

We're circling back because I see that my opinions on this are different than yours and we can't resolve it. That's exactly why I asked the "one example" question.

With the recent replies though, I also see that yours and fael 's experiences are much different than mine and this is the main cause here. So I'll simply agree to disagree.

 

When 3 different players made allegations on this (dead, and mostly already resolved) thread in the span of what, 24 hours? I felt like a narrative was developing based on a strawman argument that I wanted to address.

The point I want to reiterate is that some of the pushback on this thread was for legitimate concerns about both privacy and being able to share negative stories about other players on ML, stories that can and will shape the narrative around players and change the perception of others. These concerns have largely been addressed, and most players were willing to move on and let this thread die. I don't think the updated ToS is perfect, but it's good enough that I don't really have any huge complaints about it at this point.

I want to specify that I have no issues with the ToS as it stands staying as it is, but I am annoyed with players making allegations that the endgame community's only goal is to be toxic on a dead and already resolved thread. It feels like people are just coming in here to pick fights at this point, which I am more than happy to oblige.

 

I assure you that I'm not the target your assumption should point to. Don't assume I'm trying to pick a fight just because I'm still open to talk about it and have contradicting ideas I'd like to discuss.

 

I mean if you have issues with the ToS you should direct it as staff then, not the posters in this thread, as many of their concerns have been addressed already.

 

If I have an issue with the ToS -which I stated above that I'm verry happy with it- I can still come here on this thread where we discussed the whole thing and state whatever opinion I have. This is why the forum exists.